at the counter
do you agree with that last statement? i think in general that if more people asked for what they want in a relationship, they’d probably actually get it. as i’ve learned though, there’s this chicken and the eggs dilemma. if you ask for it, does it still mean as much? or because you had to ask for it, now it doesn’t count? i think i’ll acknowledge that it may not mean as much, but surely it still means something, otherwise, why did you want it to begin with?! logically, i would think having something (even though it didn’t mean as much as you thought) is better than having nothing at all.
apparently that first panel was a lot tougher than i thought. i guess i need to re-double my effort in paying attention to the details and really establishing that setting shot. i’m just saying, in retrospect and getting some feedback, i could’ve done more than just have a sales counter. there’s always next time!
I think when a person says “it doesn’t count because I had to ask” that’s a huge indicator that there is a bigger underlying issue going on. An issue like being insecure about how the other person feels about them.
great point! but i’d venture to say that insecurity was caused by a past relationship or even the current one. what do you do then? cut your losses and let the next person deal with it or double-down and see if that person can recover?
Are you allowed to just remain broken because someone else “broke you”? I say you have to work on improving your outlook, and your perspective, regardless of how you got there.
another great comment! I went to a counseling session once and she said something that really stuck with me. “it’s not enough to realize you have a ‘red button.’ you also have to work at eliminating that ‘red button.'” in other words, just because you may have some emotional scars and baggage, it is not enough to just know they are there. (although it is the first step!) you gotta work at them so they don’t keep becoming a problem for your partner.